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Baptist Children's Homes
of North Carolina
P.O. Box 338
Thomasville, NC 27360
Logan's Family Finds Healing
December 31, 2009
By J. Blake Ragsdale
Fifteen-year-old Logan sits on a concrete bench in front of her aunt’s home. Her aunt and grandmother sit beside her. They chat and smile. Laughter fills the air. Today, it’s easier for the family to spend time together. A year ago, it would not have been possible.
Logan is like a lot of teenagers. She attends school, she spends time with friends, and sometimes struggles to follow rules.
Before coming to Baptist Children’s Homes, Logan’s reaction to being told “no” by either her aunt or grandmother, both named Carol, was always explosive. As Logan’s primary caregivers, both Carols felt powerless. Their relationship crumbled more each time Logan’s anger was unleashed.
“She was angry all the time,” explains the grandmother. “Logan tried to start conflict. There would always be an argument. She was bringing failing grades home from school. It was the hardest thing in the world to accept that I couldn’t handle it anymore.”
Logan moved into her aunt’s home. The change did little to help the problem. Desperate, the ladies called BCH’s intake coordinator Andrea Walker who is the first contact for people in need of help.
“Andrea could tell we wanted to help Logan immediately,” Logan’s grandmother remembers. “Her aunt and I drove Logan to Mills Home in Thomasville.”
Logan was first admitted on November 11, 2009, into a short-term, emergency care cottage designed to accept children quickly.
Logan settled into Culler Cottage in January 2010. There she made a strong connection with her houseparents Dan and Alice Arrington.
“They would sit down and talk with me about things,” Logan says. “I’d talk to Mr. Dan about my problems, and he would help me. He and Mrs. Alice always know when something is wrong.”
Logan began to thrive in the cottage and at school. Her grades began to turn around. Logan developed a rapport with Danielle Hopkins, her digital communications skills teacher. Hopkins later became a visiting resource for Logan giving the teenager a mentor.
“Ms. Hopkins helped me find information about Neonatal Intensive Care Unit nursing,” Logan recalls. “I love babies, and I’ve always been interested in nursing. She helped me put the two together.”
Logan’s case manager Delores West worked together with Logan, her grandmother and aunt through organized meetings to aid the family to overcome their challenges. “Our family meetings helped a lot,” Logan says.
“The meetings usually ended up tearful,” says Logan’s grandmother. “There were a lot of emotions. Ms. Delores was great.”
Over time, West saw progress. “Logan was working hard at BCH and the family worked together to meet their goals,” West says. “Logan began to do well.”
Logan left Mills Home on August 23 and returned to live with her Aunt.
“We want what’s best for Logan, whether that means her being at my house or Carol’s house,” the grandmother says. “She’s doing well now. We talk at night on Facebook, and she’s always having a good day.”
The conflict is now gone. Logan has a very open and respectful rapport with both her aunt her grandmother. The family relationship that was almost irreparable has now been renewed and restored.
“Logan was on a path we could not get her off of,” her grandmother says. “She needed Mills Home. It was the best decision we could’ve made.”